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social-darwin-awards:

"Men are raped and molested" should be a whole sentence. I agree. You shouldn’t need to tack on the "too." Absolutely. I’m 100% with you on that one.

So stop making me do that by pretending they aren’t.

I don’t understand how somebody can talk about rape acting as if only women are raped, and even explicitly erase male victims, but then if somebody reminds them “men are raped too” it’s the latter person who is in the wrong.

It would be great if we didn’t have to constantly “derail” your ignorance, but unfortunately you do rather make it necessary.

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Sociologist Anthony Cortese views muscle dysmorphia as an obsessive compulsive disorder that reflects the dysfunctionality of gender roles in post-modern society. Identifying muscular dysmorphia as primarily a male disorder that mirrors a primarily female anorexia nervosa, Cortese says: “These men are obsessed with attaining an unrealistic cultural standard of muscularity as masculinity.”
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I recently discovered “muscle dysmorphia”, which is interesting because I’ve often commented in discussion on eating disorders that the way men become obsessed with working out, going through significant physical pain and exertion to fit the body shape they are pressured into having, could really be classified in a similar way.

I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who doesn’t take these sort of things for granted.

Photo 24 Aug 3 notes You’re late; somebody already submitted this to me earlier this month.

You’re late; somebody already submitted this to me earlier this month.

Text 24 Aug 463 notes

armaknee:

So it’s socially and legally acceptable to remove part of your infant son’s genitalia and call for the removal of this said part in adult men based on sexual and aesthetic preference but somehow it’s an example of sexism when men prefer women to be hairless. You can’t help but laugh at the apparent double standards society presents and the dissonance involved in it.

Text 20 Aug 310 notes

gildedgossamer:

*cuts off my babies pinky finger* ummmm dont judge its my decision as a parent how to permanently alter my babies body 

Text 20 Aug 116 notes

gildedgossamer:

*cuts off babies ear* my cousin got an ear infection once 

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check-your-privilege-feminists:

"The amount of posts on this site that are like ‘ALL GIRLS HOT MOST BOYS UGLY’ is disgusting and if you reblog any of them without any sort of commentary, never ever claim yourself to be a proponent of body positivity or anything like it." - commanderabutt​

Text 15 Aug 141 notes Shootings since Trayvon

200metres:

Trayvon Martin was shot 26/02/2012, and the country was shocked. The unarmed black teenager was seemingly killed for no reason other than the racial prejudices of his shooter, George Zimmerman. Black people are seen as more violent and threatening than white people, and men are seen as more violent and threatening than women, so even innocent black men can have plenty to fear from trigger-happy police and security guards. America was shocked, but it shouldn’t have been.

This petition mentions the cases of Amadou Diallo (shot in 1999), Sean Bell (2006) and Oscar Grant (2009), but we don’t need to search that far back for similar examples. I’ve collected here four cases from the month directly after Martin was killed, and four cases from the month directly before I made this post. I wanted to see whether America had learnt in the aftermath of Trayvon’s shooting, and whether it now knew better today.

Raymond Allen 27/02/2012

Officers found the father-of-four sitting on the curb, and suspected he was under the influence of drugs as he sat silently and wouldn’t respond to their questions. Attempting to provoke a response, they shot him multiple times with a taser and hogtied him. He died two days later from the ordeal.

Dante Price 01/03/2012

The 25-year-old father was attempting to leave the area after being threatened by security guards, when they shot 17 bullets at his car and hit him with three. The two guards were charged with murder.

Nehemiah Dillard 05/03/2012

In the process of a divorce, the 29-year-old was visiting his mother when officers attacked him for “behaving strangely”. He was tased multiple times and died from a cardiac arrest.

Wendell Allen 07/03/2012

During a botched search for narcotics, police who had broken into Allen’s family home shot the unarmed 20-year-old when he appeared in his pyjamas. The basketball star was not a police suspect, and his killer will serve four years in prison.

Eric Garner 17/07/2014

The asthmatic 43-year-old and father-of-six was put in a choke-hold by officers, despite the practice being banned 21 years ago, and was not released despite clearly protesting that he couldn’t breathe.

John Crawford 05/08/2014

This 22-year-old was on the phone to the mother of his children, having picked up a toy gun sold in the store, when other customers felt threatened and called the police. The arriving officers shot Crawford, despite him explaining that the gun wasn’t real, and also caused another death as a customer collapsed in the panic following this public shooting.

Mike Brown 09/08/2014

The teenager was walking to his grandmother’s house from a shop when police shot him multiple times, for unknown reasons. Brown’s killing has sparked widespread protests against police brutality in his neighbourhood.

Ezell Ford 11/08/2014

Police attempted an “investigative stop” of the 24-year-old, and there is disagreement over whether he co-operated or not. There is no disputing, however, that this unarmed and presumably innocent man was shot three times by officers who had not attempted to arrest him or charged him with a crime.

This list doesn’t include Chavis Carter, the left-handed marijuana user who allegedly shot himself through the right temple when handcuffed in the back of a police car, because the facts are disputed and he was accused of a crime. It doesn’t include Kendrec McDade, the student falsely accused of armed robbery, because he may have been guilty of unarmed robbery. It doesn’t include Bo Morrison, the kid leaving a party when he was shot by the next-door-neighbour, because the police and security services weren’t involved.

It doesn’t include Michael Lembhard, or Sheron Jackson, because there are disputing accounts over whether or not they are armed (even if only with a small knife, even if facing four armoured police officers). It doesn’t include Manuel Loggins Jr or Johnnie Kamahi Warren, shot and killed for approaching their daughters and being drunk respectively, because their deaths occurred just before Martin’s.

The list could be a lot longer, but I’ve narrowed it to eight cases, all including a black man being killed by a police or security officer, all cases where the victim was agreed by all parties to be both innocent and unarmed, meaning that the officers had no justification whatsoever to even attack (let alone with such excessive force). I’ve chosen only cases, not only since Trayvon, but in the month after his attack and in the month before today (four of each). Eight killings in two months, with all of that in common, in one country.

The list could be longer, but it’s already long enough to show that America has not learnt its lesson, and possibly never will.

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subtle-queen:

okaybutihitanightfury:

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some lovely comments left on an article about a 34 year old woman sentenced to 10 years in prison for having a sexual relationship with a 13 year old boy

This stuff makes me sick every time.

Photo 15 Aug 2,301 notes subtle-queen:

siryouarebeingmocked:

ofmanynames:

real-justice-waluigi:

athomewithmargaery:

real-justice-waluigi:

jackthevulture:

ughsocialjustice:

This post has over 100,000 notes.
-_-
Seriously?

We are like
aware
that males have self esteem issues too, right.
We are aware that they can feel like shit about themselves.  And that just because they are boys, doesnt mean they are 100% socially accepted and happy with themselves, correct?  Does this twitter user understand this concept? That males have FEELINGS?
Like we are aware that by treating them as if they are unimportant could possibly lead to social isolation, self depreciation, and possibly suicide right?
Like if you think anything about this tweets mentality is ok, understand that it is DANGEROUS.  This mentality could result in someones death. 
This is the opposite of what feminism is supposed to be. 


O noes misandry~~~
It’s funny because all of the things that you described as happening - isolation, suicide etc…
Happen to teenagers girls. Because of misogyny. Because of boys.
So if I meet a Chris and I call him Peter he can get the fuck over it

You realize that men are more likely to commit suicide right? That men are much more alone with their feelings and such because everyone promotes this idea they’re men and should be able to take it. Oh noes misogyny ~~~ oh wait, men are just a scapegoat people like you use when you can’t /actually/ prove anything. You say boys are the reason why some women commit suicide? Prove it. Give me sources. No anecdotal evidence. Because if we’re going off anecdotal evidence, I could say that women are the reason men are much more likely to commit suicide. - peachy

Excuse me Miss O noes Misandry: Do you find it fucking funny to help people kill themselves? Do you find it fucking funny to belittle and diminish the emotional state of others? Because well fucking done, you are the worst kind of feminist and need to see yourself the fuck out.

So, it’s wrong for boys to call girls by incorrect names to belittle them, but okay for girls to do so for boys? Is that the argument here?
#EQUALITY

I like how she just admitted that she picks on other people because she feels insecure.
#empowered

subtle-queen:

siryouarebeingmocked:

ofmanynames:

real-justice-waluigi:

athomewithmargaery:

real-justice-waluigi:

jackthevulture:

ughsocialjustice:

This post has over 100,000 notes.

-_-

Seriously?

We are like

aware

that males have self esteem issues too, right.

We are aware that they can feel like shit about themselves.  And that just because they are boys, doesnt mean they are 100% socially accepted and happy with themselves, correct?  Does this twitter user understand this concept? That males have FEELINGS?

Like we are aware that by treating them as if they are unimportant could possibly lead to social isolation, self depreciation, and possibly suicide right?

Like if you think anything about this tweets mentality is ok, understand that it is DANGEROUS.  This mentality could result in someones death. 

This is the opposite of what feminism is supposed to be. 

O noes misandry~~~

It’s funny because all of the things that you described as happening - isolation, suicide etc…

Happen to teenagers girls. Because of misogyny. Because of boys.

So if I meet a Chris and I call him Peter he can get the fuck over it

You realize that men are more likely to commit suicide right? That men are much more alone with their feelings and such because everyone promotes this idea they’re men and should be able to take it.
Oh noes misogyny ~~~ oh wait, men are just a scapegoat people like you use when you can’t /actually/ prove anything. You say boys are the reason why some women commit suicide? Prove it. Give me sources. No anecdotal evidence. Because if we’re going off anecdotal evidence, I could say that women are the reason men are much more likely to commit suicide.
- peachy

Excuse me Miss O noes Misandry: Do you find it fucking funny to help people kill themselves? Do you find it fucking funny to belittle and diminish the emotional state of others? Because well fucking done, you are the worst kind of feminist and need to see yourself the fuck out.

So, it’s wrong for boys to call girls by incorrect names to belittle them, but okay for girls to do so for boys? Is that the argument here?

#EQUALITY

I like how she just admitted that she picks on other people because she feels insecure.

#empowered

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bluetrafficlight:

razorbladekandy:

If I were a boy 

Not a fan of the kid one but this is a good project

Text 10 Aug 238 notes

jeysiec:

just-smith:

My sister is learning to drive. When told to watch out for an upcoming junction, she said “why? It’s my right of way”. She was advised that drivers had been known to shoot out of the junction anyway, and so it was better to be safe. Even though legally there was no obligation, you need to work around the people acting illegally to protect yourself. Stubbornly, she replied “so what if they do? It’s my right of way, so if they hit me that’s their fault and they’ll be the ones in trouble for it.”

It reminded me of a popular, stubborn attitude to victim blaming, which I’ve addressed here, here, and here. The self-righteous feeling of only doing what you have to do, not being forced to make compromises for anything else, must be nice. For me, though, it doesn’t make up for the pain of being in a car crash, or being sexually assaulted; I’d rather focusing on preventing those, even if it involved a little compromise.

Most feminists, in their responses to “victim blaming” (often a real concern, but the concept has been stretched too far), choose the former, and then spend the rest of the day blogging about how the rape rate is too high and there is no way to reduce it other than treating every single man as a rapist. They’re somehow willing to massively alter their behaviour, in a way that is offensive to half of the population, allegedly to prevent rape, but completely unwilling to simply watch out for the junction, to be a little more careful about how much they drink at parties (to give one example of advice that obviously works).

I really don’t understand it. As replies have said, right of way doesn’t matter when you’re dead. You might have had the right of way, but now you don’t have a car, or worse. Is that really worth it for pride?

Ironic you post this today, considering the conversation I had this morning myself about the topic.

Suffice to say I agree with you. Many people have this strange notion that them having the right to do something, or that something “should” happen, means it definitely will work that way and so they shouldn’t have to do anything themselves to prepare if it doesn’t. And just like how it’s disastrous to everyone when conservatives try this, it’s equally so to women when feminists try this.

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listener-blue:

know-your-body:

just-smith:

I’m still not convinced by the “male nipples and female nipples are intrinsically the same thing, if male nipples aren’t sexual then female nipples aren’t sexual, therefore women should be able to walk around topless” argument. It’s not that I’m deeply opposed to the conclusion, I just really can’t buy the logic that gets us there. If that’s going to offend you, please don’t read on.

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"If he starts waving it around at the play park, though, mothers are going to call him a paedophile." Not a good comparison. That’s because it’s still a penis. When you make comparisons like this, it has to directly reflect onto the other sex. If I started pulling my skirt down at the play park and…waved around my vulva(???), I would also get called a pedophile. Because it’s still a vulva.

I don’t see anything wrong with society’s desire to keep those lower regions covered. That is where the act of sexual intercourse takes place.

The breasts, however, are not. They can be an erogenous zone, but so can your lips/neck/etc.

Also, you mention the size of breasts being attractive due to the representation of childrearing ability. I discuss that, and whether or not that’s true, here.

But anyway, all you’re saying in this post is that “breasts should be covered because they’re sexualized”. We’re all very well aware that it’s the sexualization that forces people to cover their breasts. We’re not idiots. It’s a societal thing, and that’s why we’re fighting against it. This person says it best. We objectify women for EVERYTHING - especially for anything that differentiates her from cis-men, whereas men’s sexually dimorphic attributes are just fine (beard, adam’s apple, etc). Women are hella more sexualized than men, and that’s what we’re trying to argue against.

You’re forgetting that in the 1930s, men had to fight for their right to go shirtless at the beach etc. Back then, it was taboo for them to go topless too.

I do feel you’re missing the point here a little.I’m not trying to put words into the mouth of  just-smith - however…

Firstly the part about the the penis was more a discussion on the fact that even if a man who does not view his penis as and can not use his penis as a sexual part of his body, society at large will view it as such in certain situations regardless. There does not need to be a comparison made with women here for that point to be made. This was not a point about men having it worse than women, it was not a comparison at all - it was a point about society viewing certain parts of our body, and certain behaviour, as sexual regardless of our intent. 

As an aside, though, I am going to say that a woman ‘waving her vulva around’ would be seen as lewd - but she would not be seen as a threat in the same way that a man waving his penis around would. This is part of the way we view men and women differently sexually. Women may sometimes be viewed in an overly sexualised manner, however I would argue that men are viewed as predatory and that their entire sexual nature is linked directly to their penis. ‘Men think with their dicks’ is a phrase I have heard often. And while it is dehumanising to women to reduce them to the sum of their body parts, it is just as dehumanising to men to reduce them to one body part and to assume that it has control over their thoughts, that they are mindless sex beasts with no self control…

However - to the larger point..

If you want it to be socially acceptable for women to go topless then you have to change cultural attitudes first. The way to achieve that is not to jump straight to ‘Men can show their nipples so why can’t we?!’ - it is a playground tactic that is not going to convince anyone. And for the most part that is exactly the approach being used. It is usually followed with ‘breasts aren’t sex organs’. While there may be some that are approaching this issue from the viewpoint of sexualisation and cultural norms, my experience is that it is largely an argument about whether breasts are intrinsically sexual or not - and that is not achieving anything. And this is the point just-smith is trying to make, I believe - that most of the people raising this issue are approaching it from the wrong angle. And that in order to move this discussion on, these tactics have to change.

Pretty much spot on, thank you.

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spiral-shark said: While your points are solid I'd have to dispute your potato sack analogy. Designer dresses unlike potato sacks are in effect designed to be beautiful, via composition, color, etc. What would be a social construct is which era of style is preffered.

In response to this post.

I deliberately chose as far-fetched and ridiculous a comparison as I could, to highlight just how different two things could be whilst still a few basic similarities. You’re right to say that the comparison grows much stronger if you choose two objects which are even more similar, and you gain the aspect of design, but that wasn’t the emphasis I was going for. Thank you.


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