I know there are a bunch of posts about how to get gender neutral pronouns (they, their) on Facebook, but it always involves using developer tools which some people are not always comfortable with so I was thinking and did this thing real quick to turn it into 3 steps for convenience and the less tech savvy :)
1. Click and drag this link into your bookmarks bar. (You might need to delete the “denied:” part at the beginning of the URL, without the quotes).
2. Click this link to go to the Facebook Mobile edit gender page.
3. Click the new link you just dragged into the bookmarks bar.
And you’re done.. Facebook will only ever refer to you by they/their now.
Thanks to whoever figured this trick out first the original way!
Anonymous asked: Why do people on tumblr hate gender roles so much? Don't they know that other animals have gender roles as well? It's not only part of human society, it's an organization tool hard-wired in every group of animals.. If you don't want gender roles, go live alone in the middle of a jungle.
I think it’s because the roles have become a bit obsolete. They were useful in the early days, the hunter-gatherer days, but as society advances, they’re less and less useful. I think many of the roles should be done away with, the ones that are most harmful, but most Tumblr folks only care about eradicated women’s gender roles and not men’s.
I love the “Male Tears” meme on Tumblr, because it’s a way for Feminists to devalue anything because a man said it, avoid having to respond with intelligent discourse when challenged, and best of all, reaffirm the gender roles (which, silly me, I thought feminists were trying to fight) that if men cry they will be insulted and ridiculed. It’s a perfect representation of the tactics used by, as well as what modern day feminism stand for.
A few issues, but you get the point.
Jon Snow interviews Charlie Brooker on Channel 4 News [x]
You know nothing, Jon Snow.
THIS. DOESN’T. MAKE. SENSE. You cannot equate these two because they refer to two completely different things.
That really depends on the terms you use. Both cases involve a biological parent opting out of the rights and responsibilities of parenthood after conception has occurred, the only difference being the mechanism. When we look at the actual rights and decisions involved, they’re effectively the same.
Are you trying to argue that consent to sex is consent to parenthood for those that have the possibility of impregnating their sexual partners?
It seems that there’s a difference in timing also. A woman who gets an abortion does so within a relatively short window of time. A deadbeat dad could be someone who wants parenthood initially, but then changes his mind. So it’s a partially valid comparison.
I say, ‘I am fat.’
He says ‘No, you are beautiful.’
I wonder why I cannot be both.
He kisses me
My college theater professor once told me
that despite my talent,
I would never be cast as a romantic lead.
We do plays that involve singing animals
and children with the ability to fly,
but apparently no one
has enough willing suspension of disbelief
to go with anyone loving a fat girl.
I daydream regularly
about fucking my boyfriend vigorously on his front lawn.
On the mornings I do not feel pretty,
while he is still asleep,
I sit on the floor and check the pockets of his skinny jeans for motive,
for a punchline,
for other girls’ phone numbers.
When we hold hands in public,
I wonder if he notices the looks —
like he is handling a parade balloon on a crowded sidewalk;
if he notices that my hands are now made of rope.
Dear Cosmo: Fuck you.
I will not take sex tips from you
on how to please a man you think I do not deserve.
He tells me he loves me with the lights on.
I can cup his hip bone in my hand,
feel his ribs without pressing very hard at all.
He does not believe me when I tell him he is beautiful.
Sometimes I fear the day he does will be the day he leaves.
The cute hipster girl at the coffee shop
assumes we are just friends
and flirts over the counter.
I spend the next two weeks
mentally replacing myself with her
in all of our photographs.
When I admit this to him
we spend the evening taking new photos together.
He will not let me delete a single one of them.
The phrase “Big girls need love too” can die in a fire.
Fucking me does not require an asterisk.
Loving me is not a fetish.
Finding me beautiful is not a novelty.
I am not a fucking novelty.
I say, ‘I am fat.’
He says, ‘No. You are so much more’,
and kisses me
You know, Peeta’s unconventional masculinity is as relevant for traditional gender subversion in The Hunger Games as Katniss’s unconventional femininity.
It’s a bit annoying to see everyone and their mother praising Katniss for being such a unique action female hero, and then hearing those same people making fun of Peeta for being a weakling and a ‘sissy’.
Yes, Peeta paints sunsets and bakes cookies and frosts cakes. He is sometimes/usually unarmed and needs Katniss’s protection. He needs saving at several points across the story, and eventually he is captured and needs rescuing.
So what? Just as Katniss can be dextrous at archery, an assassin and a leader in combat, while retaining her kindness, humanity and selflessness, Peeta can paint, bake, and not be a traditional male action hero and still be the male lead and romantic hero of the story. He can still be sexually alluring for Katniss and capable of extremely heroic actions, while needing rescue and baking cakes.
And if you can’t see how relevant it is for this story and for a younger generation to understand that traditional and media-approved masculinity is also a social construct/imposition, as restrictive and reactionary as enforced traditional femininity can be, then the joke’s on you.
The worst thing about men’s suffering is that feminists will just dismiss it as “the patriarchy”. And when you’re like “yeah, but women suffer from the patriarchy too, that’s no excuse not to help them?” it eventually becomes quite obvious that they just redefined patriarchy to mean “all men” as to rationalize only helping half the victims of social prejudice.
Another wonderfully worded headline.
Anonymous asked: Thank you for that elaboration of what it is that motivates anti-choicers. I attack their views hard, so it pains me to see pro-choicers fuck up and overplay their hand with the accusation of misogyny. I support abortion rights in no small part because I think they help give women on aggregate a better shot at life, but while I see anti-choicers' position as detrimental to women's empowerment, it has long been clear to me that not all of them are misogynists.
It’s so much easier to stereotype and dismiss people than it is to actually try understanding them.
yeah like maybe by calling them “anti-choicers”
When pro-choicers call pro-lifers ‘anti-choice’, or ‘anti-women’ it pisses me off.
When pro-lifers call pro-choicers ‘anti-life’, or ‘pro-abortion’, or ‘pro-murder’ it pisses me off also.
I’d personally say that, while deliberately provocative, the term ‘anti-choice- is not unfair if it’s used specifically towards someone who is trying to actively restrict access to abortion and make abortion illegal- they are literally working towards reducing or eliminating the choice of whether or not to have an abortion. So, while aggressive, the term is not inaccurate, while the term ‘pro-abortion/pro-murder’ is inaccurate as pro-choice people don’t necessarily want more abortions to happen, they just want the choice to exist.
I think I did say in the original post that this idea of “choice” as some intrinsically wonderful thing is silly. If abortion was murder, saying you were pro-choice wouldn’t be morally great. There are plenty of things that we rightfully shouldn’t have a choice to. There’s nothing special about choice in itself.
Anonymous asked: I'm guessing that amusing yoghurt/burger post duo was from your university feminist society FB page, from which you've frequently posted excerpts in the past. If that's you who's posting the snarky response to the burger mask post, with your identity censored in blue, I hope you had the wherewithal to hit the post button. Or would you be defrocked and exiled from the group if you so utterly humiliated the gender partisans in such a manner?
They have exiled a lot of people for disagreeing in the past, because unlike on Tumblr they can actually call it a “safe space” and enforce that. I try to be polite, because they’re not actually bad sorts. They realise that MRAs have some valid concerns, they celebrate increases in Father’s Rights, and they take a stand against male circumcision.
By Tumblr standards they’re pretty much MRAs.