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Let me introduce you to the University of Toronto protest that happened in 2012.  Warren Farrell was holding a lecture discussing men’s rights, men’s issues and problems that they face in society and this is what happened.
Feminist activists embodied the exact opposite of peaceful protest and had to be forced back by a multitude of police because they were physically barring the entrance to the campus building, keeping many from entering to listen to the lecture.
Later on the fire alarm was pulled without cause, an act which is punishable by law.  Curiously though, no charges were ever filed and no investigation was put toward finding out who pulled the alarm to disrupt this lecture.  
This is what happens when people who are concerned about male DV victims talk.  This is what happens when men try to find their own space to work out how to handle the problems they face in society.  Left and right, you have these self-righteous people who are framing the narrative to make it look as though they’re preemptively silencing hate speech, rather than silencing a man’s freedom of speech.
If you want people to stop bringing up male victims in the same conversation talking about female victims, stop silencing the people who are trying to talk about male victims on their own time.  Thank you.

arhenadoeslife:

fiercefatfeminist:

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Let me introduce you to the University of Toronto protest that happened in 2012.  Warren Farrell was holding a lecture discussing men’s rights, men’s issues and problems that they face in society and this is what happened.

Feminist activists embodied the exact opposite of peaceful protest and had to be forced back by a multitude of police because they were physically barring the entrance to the campus building, keeping many from entering to listen to the lecture.

Later on the fire alarm was pulled without cause, an act which is punishable by law.  Curiously though, no charges were ever filed and no investigation was put toward finding out who pulled the alarm to disrupt this lecture.  

This is what happens when people who are concerned about male DV victims talk.  This is what happens when men try to find their own space to work out how to handle the problems they face in society.  Left and right, you have these self-righteous people who are framing the narrative to make it look as though they’re preemptively silencing hate speech, rather than silencing a man’s freedom of speech.

If you want people to stop bringing up male victims in the same conversation talking about female victims, stop silencing the people who are trying to talk about male victims on their own time.  Thank you.

Text 19 Sep 5 notes

jjjakey said: I can't help but feel that most of these modern feminists are like the old wife stereotypes "STOP TALKING AND LET ME COMPLAIN ABOUT MY FEELINGS".

I wouldn’t personally find that comparison helpful.

Text 18 Sep 3,100 notes
Text 17 Sep 30 notes What is a bossy boy?

I’ve been thinking about the whole “Ban Bossy” debate again, and I thought I’d come at it from another angle.

So far, we’ve all been critiquing the claim that “girls are called bossy, whilst boys are told they have good leadership skills” with the question: are they really the same thing? Is there not a big difference between being bossy and being a good leader, making “bossy” a legitimate criticism in its own right? “Bossy” girls are not good leaders, and so we shouldn’t call them that.

I’m now going to ask the question: are boys really told the reverse? Personally, I’ve very rarely seen a male child told that he has good leadership skills. I’d agree that “bossy” seems a label applied to girls more often than boys, but I’m not convinced that “good leader” is always the interchangeable male equivalent.

Picture a “bossy” boy, shouting at the other children and trying to get his own way. Try as I might, I can’t see him having his leadership qualities lauded. Instead, I see him accused of bullying the other kids, pressuring them into doing what he wants, throwing his weight around. He’s self-centred, a control freak. These are all much more negative labels than the almost affectionate “bossy”.

You can say “my daughter’s quite bossy” as if it’s an endearing quality, a valid personality trait and certainly not something out of the ordinary. Proudly stating “my son’s quite the bully”, however, is much less likely. Perhaps bossy, rather than being the negative version of what boys get called, is actually an upgrade.

Campaigners are right that there’s a double standard, that girls are called bossy whilst boys are called something else, but they’re wrong in their assumption that the something else is always better. It might often be a good deal worse, and girls are actually getting let off because we don’t take their arrogance and attempts at intimidation as seriously.

I obviously have no hard evidence on this, but as everyone is otherwise assuming the opposite, that boys are praised for the leadership skills and escape the negative “bossy” label, I’m at least allowed to question that assumption with a hypothesis that the reverse might actually be true. “Bossy” might actually be the escape.

Chat 17 Sep 84 notes
  • Tumblr: Women don't wear make-up and nice clothes for a man's benefit, we like to look good for ourselves, we don't care what men are or aren't attracted to. I dress up for me and me alone.
  • Tumblr: There is so much pressure for women to look pretty, to wear make up and nice clothes, and it comes from men alone, we are forced to do all of this horrible beauty stuff because of the patriarchy.
Text 17 Sep 126 notes

kinda-obsessed-inc:

I see both of these quite a lot

just-smith:

Advert: This product will help you (a man) to attract women!
Feminist: What, so women are just objects of male desire now? We have no autonomy for ourselves, we’re just a prop you can use to throw at men as an incentive? This completely shows how the whole world is seen through the male gaze,…

That isn’t what a true feminist would tell you. If you would stop and listen to what we have to say, maybe you would be able to make a post like that.

I am a feminist. I haven’t said that all feminists say these things, just that “I see both of these quite a lot”, which is true. It might not even be the same groups of feminists giving each response, and I haven’t claimed that either.

This post is literally a product of stopping and listening to what assorted feminists have to say, and I’ve presented it as nothing more than those humble observations. Do you object to that?

Quote 16 Sep 117,374 notes

It’s Monday. I’m going home at 6pm and a middle aged man and a teenage boy are the only people left on the bus with me. I consider the fact that because the driver is also a man I am the only person left on the bus with the correct genetic makeup for boobs. I’m automatically scared, scared because of my own anatomy. I wonder how old I was when I realized that my own body was going to be the cause of the constant anxiety and fear I feel in situations like this. I get off at the last stop and the older man smiles at me while following me up the street. His smile drips, drips, drips and my heart is pounding, pounding, pounding. He turns off down another road, but I run the rest of the way home.

Not all men.

I’m at home on a Tuesday, beginning to plan the travels I want to go on next year. I dream of wandering the streets and meeting strangers. I just can’t wait to escape the city I’ve lived in for 17 long years. But… my mum is hesitant. She’s forever worried about the danger that being a young girl traveling alone can bring. I’ll be alone and she’s scared. Surely I’m invincible. I feel invincible. But I know, I know this danger is real and I can’t help but think to myself, if I feel unsafe in my own city, how am i going to feel in a strange place with strange men who don’t speak the same language as me? If I was my brother planning this, I would probably just be wondering if European girls are going to be hot.

Not all men.

Wednesday is a beautiful sunny day but I’ve always been told that I don’t have a “nice enough body” to wear a bikini on the beach. Ever since I was 6 years old I’ve thought that having tummy fat was ugly. That skin that doesn’t have a perfectly golden glow is undesirable. I amble to a clear patch of sand in my one piece and I can feel pairs of eyes latching onto me. Hairy men in speedos who I don’t look twice at eat into my body with their stares. I’m a piece of meat. I am a piece of meat? I am here for their amusement. Please don’t let me be eaten alive.

Not all men.

Thursday night two friends and I are walking to our god damn school dance when we hear “Jesus look at you! You sluts heading to a pole?” These words snarl out of the mouth of a respectably dressed man and we stop in horror. Shivers roll up my back in fear. It’s dark. We are alone. What. Do. We. Do??? One of us pulls the finger back. I can never be sure how quickly a sexist man can get angry so we walk quickly away. We’re angry, so so angry. But also so… deflated. I wonder if we deserve this shame.

Not all men.

Sitting on the internet, Friday night and scrolling down my Facebook newsfeed:

“Haha, good job at the game today bro. You RAPED them!”
“Damn with tits like that, you’re asking for it :P”

Another sexist comment…
Another sexist comment…
Another sexist comment…

I’m shrinking and shrinking and shrinking and I want to CRY because these boys don’t realize how small they make me feel with just pressing a few keys. I see these boys on the streets, I talk to these boys, I laugh with these boys. Dear GOD, dear GOD i hope these boys don’t think actions speak louder than words…

Not all men.

Three rules that have been drilled into me since I was young run through my mind at 1.30am on a Satur… Sunday Morning:

-Don’t ever talk to strange men
-Don’t ever be alone at night in a strange place
-Don’t ever get into a car with a stranger

I break all 3 of these laws as I pull open the taxi door. Making light conversation with the driver, he doesn’t see my sweaty hand clutching the small pocket knife I keep hidden on me at all times. He doesn’t even realize the fear I feel at his mere presence. He cannot comprehend it, he never will. How easy would this 15 minute car ride be if I was born a boy?

Not all men.

It comes to Sunday, another snoozy, sleepy, Sunday and someone has the AUDACITY to tell me not all men are rapists. I say nothing.

I’m a 17 year old girl.
When I am walking alone and it’s dark, it’s all men.
When I am in a car with a man I don’t know well, it’s all men.
When men drunkenly leer at me on the streets, it’s all men.
When a boy won’t leave me alone at a party, it’s all men.

Not all men are rapists. But for a young girl like me? Every one of them has the potential to be.

Not.
All.
Men.

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a piece i wrote for an english assignment about my personal experiences with rape culture, in particular with the saying “not all men” which i know has been makin a lot of controversy on the internet recently! idk just wanted to share (via trueho)

This is some insanely paranoid shit

i do not remember being this paranoid at seventeen

(via bluesigma)

Well, this is probably going to make my top ten of ridiculously obnoxious and stupid posts on tumblr… Seriously, and I am being serious here, I think OP needs to go talk to someone about her paranoia, ideally a professional.

(via poorpoorpitifulme)

This is satire, right?

Text 16 Sep 438,918 notes Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

loganmcowen:

xaldien:

loganmcowen:

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

"You’d be surprised", said Xaldien, who just lost four followers and received a lovely "men can’t be raped" anon shortly after reblogging this the first time.

Yowch, disgusting.

via .
Text 16 Sep 126 notes I see both of these quite a lot

Advert: This product will help you (a man) to attract women!
Feminist: What, so women are just objects of male desire now? We have no autonomy for ourselves, we’re just a prop you can use to throw at men as an incentive? This completely shows how the whole world is seen through the male gaze, with women just existing to please men.

Advert: This product will help you (a woman) to attract men!
Feminist: Why do you assume we care what men find attractive? I wear what I wear, do what I do, because I enjoy it, not so some gross dude can get turned on by it. Can’t we like something for ourselves, rather than only caring what men think? This completely shows how the whole world is seen through the male gaze, with women just existing to please men.

Whose gaze are we seeing the world through, again?

Text 15 Sep 343 notes Mother of four breaks into neighbour’s home to rape him

ferventfox:

serahfemme:

ferventfox:

serahfemme:

just-smith:

skeletom:

http://metro.co.uk/2014/09/14/woman-rapes-man-while-hes-sleeping-after-pinning-his-hands-over-his-head-4868874

Chantae Gilman, an alcoholic mother of four (who is also currently “2 months sober and I’m 31 weeks pregnant" which adds up nicely…) last year broke into the apartment of her neighbour following a party and raped him while he slept - he awoke to find her on top of him pinning him down and refusing to relent when he attempted to get away. She outright denied the charge but luckily in this case the man did actually go to the police, who found DNA evidence supporting him. She’s being charged with second degree rape, and internet commenters have been quick to show their apathy. Here are a few examples from just one page:

Why do these awesome things never happen to me?”
Not really sure how this is possible? Surely he had to be arosed for her to get in in?
Some guys have all the luck.
In the words of hangover’s chow ‘HA GAYYY’ lol
But he must have had a boner? So therefore he must have been aroused? Lol i am baffled.
I could understand if she was butt ugly….
I don’t believe this mans version of events, not for a second.
Was he gay?
I wonder if the police officers whom he reported to, laughed behind the “victim’s” Back. I would. Lol.
I’m not being funny but men can’t get raped. They’re men and will shag anything.
she technically didn’t do anything wrong
This is my FAVOURITE post of ALL TIMES.
Not entirely sure how this is possible…………. therefore how true it is?
the man needs to #manitupgirl
you can’t force a man to have sex. that is all they want!

There are also plenty of comments from people who are outraged and sympathetic, which is fantastic and restores a little faith in humanity, but the sheer volume of people (both men and women) who see female-on-male rape as a joke is disgraceful.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a male rape case without these comments. It’s a scary world we live in.

this is why MRA’s are not champions to men who have been victims of sexual assault

Wut? 

What does this have to do with MRAs? 

MRA’s often jump to say things like “but men get raped too!” when women talk about their rape experiences, and then when a man actually gets raped they’re suspiciously silent, proving that they don’t actually care about male victims of sexual assault and are really just trying to derail conversations about the overwhelming problem of women getting raped.

The comment above you is literally from an MRA and I see a lot of MRA blogs in the notes. Please tell me how MRAs “are suspiciously silent”? Have you ever  actually spoken to an MRA? They focus a lot of their energy on this issue; many of them are rape victims. 

And nobody brings up male rape when “women talk about their rape experiences”; they bring it it up when gender ideologues try to force sexual assault into a narrative which excludes male victims and female perpetrators.  

You want to talk about derailing? What about using this post about how male victims are treated to bitch about MRAs? How dare you accuse a group of people of  not really caring about male victims when your only contribution to this conversation has been to attack a ridiculous strawman and then talk about how overwhelming a problem some other group’s issue is. Fuck off you hypocritical piece of shit. 

Did somebody just derail a conversation of MRAs talking about male rape victims to complain “you’ll never see MRAs talking about this”?

Video 15 Sep 532,706 notes

poorpoorpitifulme:

commanderabutt:

real-justice-waluigi:

wtfantisjws:

pastygod:

shaynthehero:

That’s how all women should feel about their body.

This is how everyone should feel about their body

I understand your point, but almost all men already do feel this way about their bodies and hardly any women do

-Stephen

Okay, that’s just not true, and it’s viewpoints like this that get steroid abuse and eating disorders present in men ignored.

Men also have body image issues. Non binary people also have body image issues. Body image issues are not limited to cis women, and, as I said, thinking like that gets lots of other very serious issues taken less seriously.

Stephen up there knows like, 5 men apparently.

Stephen needs to fuck off and stop assuming he can speak for all men and their experiences.

Harsh words, but the point stands. This reminds me of that Hillary Clinton quote: ”It’s always surprising to me how many young women think they have to be perfect. I rarely meet a young man who doesn’t think he already is.” 

She’s clearly met the same five men.

(Source: shesbombb)

Photo 15 Sep 10,344 notes poppypicklesticks:

annahigginsdesigns:

AH/Designs Original 

Oh god, more of this ban bossy nonsense.
No sorry sweetheart, thinking that just because you are female you are not only exempt from accusations of bossiness, but automatically the leader in every situation and all must adhere to your whims and commands…
Is actually the height of bossiness.
Sometimes you are not the boss.  Pull on your Big Girl panties and eal with it.  Making artwork of scowling, petulant young women claiming they are the boss by default is not going to change anyone’s mind, nor is it going to make anyone think that ordering others about and commanding them without any regard to their own feelings, or that declaring yourself the leader by default is not going to make anyone think bossiness is a virtue or a leadership skill simply because it comes from a woman.
Stop undermining true leadership qualities in women with this coddling nonsense. 

poppypicklesticks:

annahigginsdesigns:

AH/Designs Original 

Oh god, more of this ban bossy nonsense.

No sorry sweetheart, thinking that just because you are female you are not only exempt from accusations of bossiness, but automatically the leader in every situation and all must adhere to your whims and commands…

Is actually the height of bossiness.

Sometimes you are not the boss.  Pull on your Big Girl panties and eal with it.  Making artwork of scowling, petulant young women claiming they are the boss by default is not going to change anyone’s mind, nor is it going to make anyone think that ordering others about and commanding them without any regard to their own feelings, or that declaring yourself the leader by default is not going to make anyone think bossiness is a virtue or a leadership skill simply because it comes from a woman.

Stop undermining true leadership qualities in women with this coddling nonsense. 

Text 14 Sep 343 notes Mother of four breaks into neighbour’s home to rape him

skeletom:

http://metro.co.uk/2014/09/14/woman-rapes-man-while-hes-sleeping-after-pinning-his-hands-over-his-head-4868874

Chantae Gilman, an alcoholic mother of four (who is also currently “2 months sober and I’m 31 weeks pregnant" which adds up nicely…) last year broke into the apartment of her neighbour following a party and raped him while he slept - he awoke to find her on top of him pinning him down and refusing to relent when he attempted to get away. She outright denied the charge but luckily in this case the man did actually go to the police, who found DNA evidence supporting him. She’s being charged with second degree rape, and internet commenters have been quick to show their apathy. Here are a few examples from just one page:

Why do these awesome things never happen to me?”
Not really sure how this is possible? Surely he had to be arosed for her to get in in?
Some guys have all the luck.
In the words of hangover’s chow ‘HA GAYYY’ lol
But he must have had a boner? So therefore he must have been aroused? Lol i am baffled.
I could understand if she was butt ugly….
I don’t believe this mans version of events, not for a second.
Was he gay?
I wonder if the police officers whom he reported to, laughed behind the “victim’s” Back. I would. Lol.
I’m not being funny but men can’t get raped. They’re men and will shag anything.
she technically didn’t do anything wrong
This is my FAVOURITE post of ALL TIMES.
Not entirely sure how this is possible…………. therefore how true it is?
the man needs to #manitupgirl
you can’t force a man to have sex. that is all they want!

There are also plenty of comments from people who are outraged and sympathetic, which is fantastic and restores a little faith in humanity, but the sheer volume of people (both men and women) who see female-on-male rape as a joke is disgraceful.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a male rape case without these comments. It’s a scary world we live in.

Video 14 Sep 3,211 notes

sjwstupidity:

silverlined-shalalalas:

sjwstupidity:

silverlined-shalalalas:

pro-bees-anti-feminism:

Ok so:

  • Sharing pictures of naked Dylan; ok.
  • Sharing pictures of naked Jennifer; not ok.
  • Pictures of naked Dylan; scandalous.
  • Pictures of naked Jennifer; not scandalous.
  • Sharing pictures of naked Dylan; funny and sexy.
  • Sharing pictures of naked Jennifer; you should be focusing on more important things, and the reaction of boys is predictable.
  • Fans enjoying naked pictures of Dylan; ok.
  • Fans enjoying naked pictures of Jennifer; what a bunch of predictable teenagers.
  • Dylan should take responsibility for the photos. “He owned up to it immediately.”
  • The photos shouldn’t change your opinion of Jennifer.

Personally I really don’t care about the actual photos, it’s not a surprise that celebrities have genitals just like everybody else. But I do find the reaction of the internet very interesting.

Why the double standard?

Okay I’m not quite clear on the argument this person is making, but I think it’s saying media sympathized with Jen and exploited Dylan?

But since the url says antifeminism imma just assume that

Tbh this is the FIRST time that a woman’s nudes are taken seriously and she is not being slutshamed (in my experience)

When Vanessa hudgens photos got leaked/Miley Cyrus’s/Demi lovatos/ etc, it was a huge whore-ordeal and they were slutshamed left and right but when Dylan’s photos came out he jokes it off and (again, in my experience) he was called “champ” and “a good sport”

So yeah

And obviously there are people that sexualized the nudes (for both men and women alike) but a woman’s body is much more sexualized in society and not only is it pleasured, it’s ridiculed and mocked to the public.

So I’m afraid the double standard goes the other way, my friend

I found it!  I found it!  I found the dipshit rationalizing that because some people slut shamed, guys being sexualized somehow doesn’t fucking matter.  Because “women get sexualized more” evidence?  ”cuz I say so!”

Holy shit fuck off with this dumb shit.  Men get their dicks rated on news sites.  Womens’ leaked photos never go up on those sites to begin with!  Women get to complain about how they feel victimized by their nudes being leaked.  Men are expected to “laugh it off.”

But no you said the double standard goes the other way because “wahh slut shaming.”  Are you fucking for real?

Okay 1. Chill
2. I defs stated that YES both men and women’s nude bodies get sexualized because people do that and yeah it’s not right
3. The double standard I was talking about was that the public doesn’t typically shame the man for showing his body, whereas peoples opinions of a woman tend to lessen when she wears more revealing clothing or is nude.

And this isn’t misandry, homie.

Also, Jennifer Lawrence’s photos weren’t leaked, but hacked into. It’s not like an ex bf or someone released them, it was someone breaking the law. So that’s why the response to her incident is more defensive instead of accusatory.

Yes I agree people sexualizing bodies goes both ways and people shouldn’t do that, and I never said that it’s okay for men’s privacy to be revealed to the public.

Except you’re outright denying that there’s a double standard because there exist people who slut shame.  As if every day individuals who slut shame diminishes media response, which is generally sympathetic to women, while no one shames women for passing around nude photos of men.  Men don’t get “slut shamed” because the women (and gay/bi men) are too busy judging his dick size while other (straight) men attempt to ignore it because it’s not in their interest to defend another man.  Gender roles, and all.

And no, I’m not going to chill.  You don’t chill when you perceive misogyny, so why should I chill when I see misandry?  Ohh that’s right, you get to dictate to a man what is and isn’t misandry.  But when a man tries to say “that’s not misogyny” he’s speaking from a place of privilege and silencing the voice of oppressed womyn, right?

Find me one national news source that condemns women for sharing private photos of men, just one, then you can talk to me about how women are the fucking victims here.

Photo 14 Sep 703 notes kiran4equality:

Even the same user.

kiran4equality:

Even the same user.

(Source: notallfeminists)


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