Anonymous asked: (I just needed to tell you you're awesome.)
(that’s very much appreciated)
TW: Rape Culture
Often men do not understand that women have to walk home carrying protection. I have friends who carry keys, mace, and keychain clubs. I carry a switchblade in my pocket when I walk home from work. The fact that I feel like I have to do so is sickening, and men should be able to see that.
I encourage men to be just as disgusted by rape culture as women. Aren’t you angry that a small percentage of your sex forces women to carry weapons and assume the worst of you when you walk home behind them?
We shouldn’t have to live in a culture that breeds necessary fear of strangers. I shouldn’t need a knife to walk home in the dark.
Yes I was, That’s why I moved out of a violent crime ridden area, of course I was so focused on the danger of men that I never saw the woman coming….
because I and and every guy I know carries at least one knife on him at all times. several of them keep guns in their homes. and when travelling, I carry a slightly battered shillelagh.
it appears that men are accustomed to what feminists call rape culture.
I’ve never carried a knife but I usually carry a water bottle which I make sure is available as a quick weapon (it’s usually full also).
Will these people please stop acting like they talk for all women omg, I have literally lost count of the number of times I’ve had to say this, but no, these experiences you’re all talking about are not universal female experiences.
I have literally never walked home like that… in fact, most of the time when I’m walking home, even late at night, I do so with my hands in my pockets and my ipod on. Is this the wisest choice? Maybe not, but where I live is ridiculously safe, my walk home is along a brightly-lit highly residential main road and I have never, ever felt truly threatened when walking anywhere late at night (aside from that one time with a bunch of aggressive teenage girls…). But my point is that not every woman lives their lives paralysed by fear and, more importantly, the fear you feel does not necessarily have any real bearing on the amount of danger you are actually in. Images like this prove nothing except that a small subset of women apparently like to bolster each other’s paranoia to make themselves feel special. …Or something, idek.
Plus, there are other reasons for being afraid of being out late. I personally have a tremendous fear of being mugged. Plus rape typically happens in a home environment, committed by someone the victim knew personally.
Women don’t ‘have’ to do anything. Nobody is ‘forcing’ them to do this. Men face a much, much higher risk of all types of stranger violence.
Even if you use the most biased feminist statistics of rape, and erase that men are raped too, you have to consider other forms of violence, which are much more common. You cannot, therefore, claim that being unsafe is a uniquely female phenomenon.
You have to consider that most instances of rape are by somebody the victim knows, often at a party or within a relationship. You cannot, therefore, use statistics of rape’s prevalence to justify points about being unsafe on the streets, as most rapists are not strangers in alleyways, and so carrying weapons into those alleyways has nothing to do with most of the occurrences of rape you are citing.
I’ve always carried my keys like this, as a man, whilst I don’t know any women who do. Not only are you speaking over me, your claim to speak for all women as terrified little damsels is patronising and demeaning. Please stop.
If you consider yourself to be “for equality”, but your analysis completely ignores 50% of the population — you’re not doing a very good job.
Lately, all of these discussions about feminism and male rights reminded me of a certain episode of a certain show I watched growing up.
This is the kind of shit that just really gets to me and pisses me off. How can you support the gay and lesbian community but then not us? It’s not that difficult to go educate yourself on bisexuality and what it means, and it is really not that difficult to understand. This is not some crazy kinky thing that people choose to do. We’re not some crazy attention whores who are confused and don’t know what we want. Are there some people out there who are confused? Sure. Are there some annoying immature girls out there who just want attention? Sure. Are there bisexual people out there who are promiscuous and jump from one to the other constantly? There are. But that doesn’t give anyone the right to generalize and stereotype all bisexuals as one. You are pegging an entire community of people as something bad, and something not to be taken seriously or even considered “real”, based upon the few who give us a bad reputation.
Generalizing entire communities of people is wrong. Don’t sit there and think you know what kind of person I am because you once witnessed a couple 13 year old girls that claimed to be bi and made out with one another at a party. Those aren’t the faces of bisexuality and that kind of behavior certainly does not represent me or what it means to be bisexual. This is a STEREOTYPE. And it’s WRONG and should NEVER be used as some kind of evidence against why you do not support or accept an entire group/community of people.
Just admit that you are a close-minded and ignorant bigot.
I thought this was super cool and so I had to share.
At a bar with Adem the other night and noticed right away the new coasters. The back says it was provided by a women’s group in town, but the front is directed to both men and women. I think that’s pretty fucking rad!
BOYS HAVE SOCIETAL PRESSURES TOO AND ANYONE THAT SAYS OTHERWISE IS WRONG GOODBYE
Angelina Jolie had a double mastectomy, in case you hadn’t heard. How dare she remove those ticking time bombs from her chest, amiright? Like, hasn’t she learned by now that her body is public domain and we all get to vote on what she does with it? Sheesh, how selfish can ya get.
So today Angelina Jolie had double mastectomy, which is the removal of one’s breasts, to prevent Breast cancer. So instead of praising Angelina on her bravery, men on Twitter decided to ridicule her, even calling her stupid for removing her breasts. For those of you on Tumblr that are attacking Feminists for being delusional about sexism against women and misogyny here’s your fucking proof that sexism and misogyny exists.
Our celebrity obsessed culture may be a joke but breast cancer definitely isn’t - nearly 500,000 people die from it every year. Angelina Jolie’s doctors estimated she had an 87% risk of developing breast cancer and a 50% risk of developing ovarian cancer because she carries the common gene mutation that causes both. Her mother died at the age of 56 after a long battle with cancer as well. My own mother had both breast and ovarian cancer within a couple short years and let me tell you, it’s about the least funny thing in the world to watch someone suffer from.
Valuing someone’s body parts you sexualized over their life and humanity goes beyond sexism, it’s sub-human.
Someone left this on the table I went to go eat at so I took it and true
The amount of notes on this post is proof of how stupid the majority of the population is.
Anonymous asked: Do you find it hilariously ironic that so many people on this website base their ideology on their emotional investment in a cause (i.e. i have been oppressed by the cis white heterosexual patriarchy, i don't feel safe) often write off the emotions of others who offer dissenting opinions as useless emotional arguments (i.e. lol male tears, oh you were bullied by a black girl, etc.)?
Hilariously, and depressingly.
theanimalawake asked: If it is messages like the last one that keep you here, I can't not contribute. You're a wonderful, intelligent, caring and eloquent person, and (along with others like you) articulate things that some of us sometimes can't (or lack information to), and you have no idea how much that does for my sanity and well-being. Also, I want to punch everyone who's verbally abusive towards you just a little. May only lucky accidents&coincidences follow you, and may you never us.
Thank you, but please don’t punch anyone! Violence isn’t the answer to ignorance, and will only fuel it further. Particularly where there are victim complexes involved…
Anonymous asked: From yet another anon, you're one of the few people that make tumblr bearable :)
I’m sorry to hear that! Tumblr’s not that bad, once you learn to laugh at the stupidity. It shouldn’t be a chore: I enjoy my time here. Receiving anons like this certainly helps :)
Americans who complain about their dress codes that don’t allow them to show their underwear are so hard to take seriously when you’ve had to wear a uniform to school every day since the age of 9.
I think the problem is less that and more the fact that girls are subjected to all sorts of dress code rules like how long their shorts can be and whether they can wear leggings and how high their necklines need to be, and guys are literally only told “pull your pants up and wear a shirt”.
Right, because a guy would totally be allowed to wear short shorts or leggings to school
telling guys they can’t wear leggings or short shorts to school is also misogyny, specifically transmisogyny so I’m not sure what your point is tbqh
“come to school but by all means don’t look like a girl”
did you really try make a situation in which men are negatively impacted, about women
it’s not really about women. men not even being able to wear women’s clothes if they wanted is still part of misogyny. misogyny just happens to affect them, too. girls come into school with men’s clothes on without an issue, but if boys were to do the same, they would be written up. it’s not right.