Text 19 Dec 47 notes Fourth-wave inclusivity

The old model:

As women, we can see that women aren’t allowed in the male role. It’s obviously men keeping us out, whilst they are allowed to do what they want.

The new model:

Listening to the experiences of men and women, we can see that women aren’t allowed in the male role and men aren’t allowed in the female role. This is obviously a natural gender binary being enforced by society, as supported by evolutionary theory and the study of gender roles in other cultures and species.

So we incorporate misogyny fully, but also allow for the existence of misandry. No experiences of sexism are erased.

The old model:

This man is attacked for acting feminine, in the female role? In exactly parallel ways to how women are attacked for acting masculine, in the male role? Ah, but men created sexism, so it can only hurt women. Women must be the victims of this restriction of men. Oh, I know: feminine men are similar to women, society hates women, so society hates feminine men. Yes. Whereas masculine women are hated by society… because they are women. Even though they are similar to men. Yeah, this double standard works out fine. Everybody is oppressed by the patriarchy, but men can’t be.

This doesn’t fully explain the oppression of men who are attracted to other men? Well then that’s nothing to do with sexism, let’s call that something completely different, as heterosexism. We can now add some new labels to allow for the overwhelming evidence that these men are oppressed, whilst still refusing to believe that the patriarchy restricts other men, because this is nothing to do with sexism. Apart from where it hurts women, because lesbians are only hated because they are women. New idea: everybody is oppressed by the patriarchy, but hetero men can’t be.

This doesn’t fully explain the oppression of men who want to go further and fully identify as women, and vice versa? Well then let’s make this distinct then. Rather than acknowledge that men have just as strict gender roles as women, and are punished equally if they try to leave them, we can say that this isn’t sexism but something completely different: cissexism. This allows for the overwhelming evidence that these men are oppressed, whilst still permitting us to keep the old ‘sexism only hurts women’ model, because this is completely unrelated to sexism. Apart from where it hurts women, because trans women’s struggles come from sexism whilst trans men are only hurt by cissexism. Even though they are absolute parallels. Yes. New idea: everybody is oppressed by the patriarchy, but cis hetero men can’t be.

This doesn’t account for how black men are profiled and face diproportionately high rates of conviction for being both black and male, with both factors contributing on their own. Well then let’s make this distinct then. The fact that black people have this demonstrates racism, whilst the fact that men have it can’t be sexism, as men can’t be the victims of sexism, because they cause it. So the fact that it is a man being targeted is relevant when he is black, because then we can just say it is a specific type of racism for black men, but not when he is white because white men can’t be discriminated against in any way, whatever the statistics say. Also, the power structures are different. Even though we just defined what they are for men in the first place. So we can defend the model against this objection because if we assume the model is right then the objection is wrong. We say that men don’t suffer, you say that men do suffer, but you’re wrong because our model says that men don’t suffer. That makes sense. New idea: everybody is oppressed by the patriarchy, but white cis hetero men can’t be.

Women aren’t allowed to act like men, identify as men, or be attracted to other women, because of sexism against women.

Men aren’t allowed to act like women because of sexism against women alone.

Men aren’t allowed to identify as women because of cissexism alone.

Men aren’t allowed to be attracted to other men because of heterosexism alone.

Yeah, that deals with everything fairly.

The new model:

With an open mind, we can see that the old model doesn’t fit with the evidence. 

Women aren’t allowed to act like men, identify as men, or be attracted to other women, because the binary traps them in a restrictive gender role. Over time these roles have evolved to efficiently distribute jobs within a unit, allowing our ancestors to thrive as social animals and reproduce. Today, this system is unnecessary.

Men aren’t allowed to act like women, identify as women, or be attracted to other men, because the binary traps them in a restrictive gender role. Over time these roles have evolved to efficiently distribute jobs within a unit, allowing our ancestors to thrive as social animals and reproduce. Today, this system is unnecessary.

The binary was created by everybody, and is perpetuated by everybody. It affects everybody. It advantages everybody and it disadvantages everybody. If we are to fight it, we need everybody on board. We need to listen to everybody. We need to understand everybody. We cannot exclude, erase, or even attack a specific group simply because they do not fit into an outdated and one-sided account of how sexism works. Feminism has slowly become more inclusive, and it is time to take that one final leap.

New idea: everybody is oppressed by the patriarchy. Full stop.

  1. exxistential reblogged this from beyondthebetween and added:
    Something to seriously think about…
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    This… ^
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    YES, EVERYBODY READ THIS. This is exactly what the problem is. Help spread the word! It is worth the read, and addresses...
  8. beyondthebetween reblogged this from just-smith and added:
    Great explanation of the effects of patriarchy on EVERYONE, going beyond cis-centered binary traps. Oppression from...
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