Just Smith.

otaku-sex-beast:

ibreathetohelp:

15% of eating disorder case are males. AND males are LESS LIKELY to get help for their problems because eating disorders are seen as “female” problems. Lets think about we are doing here, people. Seriously.

It’s true. 

We have to remember that FuckyeahChubbyGirls was invented way before FuckyeahChubbyGuys. 

Also..guys have to deal with that shit just as much as girls do. I think it’s fucking retarded that some girls will be like, “Only a REAL man can handle my curves.” But she’ll be around 300 pounds and will only want to date a guy that’s cut like a spartan. 

If you want people to accept your body, then you need to fucking accept theirs. 

I still think that women have more of an issue here. Most of the women I know can’t go out of the house without having literally covered their face up in make up, styled their hair and planned out a passable outfit. They feel under immense societal pressure to shave their whole bodies and to cover up any blemishes.

Men have some pressure to be muscular and strong, as well as generally attractive - we are seeing more and more guys who make an effort with their hair and clothes. If I leave a bit of stubble on my face everybody tells me that I need to shave, because it’s not a choice. Some men are even being persuaded into make-up, especially those who need to be seen in public or on television. But that’s it. You’re right that we shouldn’t ignore male problems - but for objectification on beauty, I think women still have the bigger issues.

Of course, there are other types of objectification. Historically it has been the priority of women to be attractive and therefore find a mate, and feminists could say that indicates oppression: men are free to do as they please, and whereas women are dependent on attracting a man. There are two masculist disclaimers to this view. The first is that such a situation is certainly sexist, but making men work and women not isn’t just unfortunate for women, as men actually get the rawer deal. This is important to bear in mind when judging historical laws that men should own all the property in the marriage, rather than dividing it equally - in context this law is not so sexist, as men earned almost all of the wealth themselves; if labour wasn’t divided equally, why should its proceeds have been?

The second footnote is that in working for wealth and power, men were equally trying to attract women. We can never draw direct comparisons, but it is worth considering that money was to men what make up was to women. Physical objectification can extend beyond the body. So both men and women are under extreme pressure to better themselves in more than one way, simply because they are objectified. 

Nowadays the differences between genders are narrowing, and so there have been crossovers. I don’t just mean that women can have men’s clothes and hair after feminism (whilst the reverse is currently less acceptable), I mean that women can have wealth and power, and be seen as attractive on that basis. Likewise some men can focus on looks alone to attract objectifying women, and therefore not need to work for the rest. 

So yes: guys have to deal with girl ‘shit’ when it comes to being judged on the traditionally female peacock’s tail, that of appearance. But just as much threat comes from having to maintain their own peacock’s tail of material attractiveness. Unemployed men are instantly less attractive, whilst being rich and famous has you swamped with women. That’s our equivalent to looks. Women don’t feel as much pressure to have high status (they can easily get away with being unemployed) and men don’t feel as much pressure to be beautiful - but it’s evening out. 

I think both sorts of pressures are wrong, as they are objectification and therefore not seeing and respecting human beings as human beings. We do need to all accept each others’ bodies and positions, as well as accepting our own. Everybody is a person, and so we all deserve to be attractive; there are no set rules, no criteria. Bodily sizes and proportions don’t make you more or less beautiful as a person. Numbers and titles don’t make you more or less important as a person. It’s who you really are inside that should matter. Imagine if all the pressure that pushed us into attaining looks and wealth pushed us into being good, imagine if that was the image the media sent out for us to aspire to.

As it is, ambitious people are hurting themselves and others to become ‘attractive’ - and we need to ask ourselves as a society whether this is what we really want in a partner. Somebody who prioritises how they look or what they have over who they are. I didn’t think so. Just be yourself as well as you can be, and nobody can ask anything more of you. You’re not an object.